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Now, that’s a good question and its not easy to come to a clear conclusion. This very question has crossed my mind many times and each time I asked myself whether ‘being in a relationship is better or worse’, I ended up without a conclusion. Like hundreds of trivial questions, this too will have different responses from different people. And what I meant by “being in a relationship” is, for an unmarried, mature person being in love with someone, that is – having a boyfriend or girlfriend (whether you are in love or not).

I must say that ‘being in a relationship’ is quite addictive. Once you’ve grown up and experienced the feeling, the love and all the other things that come along with this relationship, its not easy to give it all up and be an island once again.

When the Sun Shines….
When you are in a relationship, the days seem brighter and the sun and the moon shine brighter. Even birds (of whose existence you’ve hardly noticed) sing love songs; everyone you meet seems to wear a smile. Suddenly, you became an optimist like Robert Browning, who once upon a time in the mid-nineteenth century said, “ God’s in heaven, All’s right with the world”. Yes, God indeed seems to be in heaven and all’s right with the world (to you, atleast !).

You don’t care anymore whether the ice caps in Antarctica melts; whether the global warming rises; whether your family got anything to say about your bizarre behaviour – the world itself seems to smile at you. I guess some of us might even get blisters from the heat, while sitting by the fire with our lovers and not aware of it !

Everything you do begins to have a meaning. This does not come as a surprise as you add a meaning to it. But, when you are in a relationship, the sun does not shine round the clock. Love burns you like a cigar. You burn and burn and at the end become ashes (if not, smokes !)

When the Sun Sets….
Its natural to have differences and misunderstandings as you are two people with different heads. Your heart may be joined with love, but, the heads can hardly be joined. That’s where the problems begin. As the sun has to set once it rose, relationship has to go through many differences and misunderstandings. So, there are times when you hit the pillow and regret for having fallen in love. Sometimes you said what you should never say and sometimes you didn’t say what you should’ve said. And as to err is human, there are times when you make mistakes. When these things happened, a feeling of guilt surge through your minds; even as you wanted to sleep and forget what had happened, you just could not do it. Yes, sometimes, the famous Nike slogan “Just Do It” does not make sense at all. In short, sleepless nights, worries, tears, guilts and jealousies come with this ‘relationship’ and its not easy to deal with any of these feelings.

When you are Single Again…
Being in a relationship is like learning how to swim without an instructor. As you badly wanted to know how swim, you are so excited when you are in the water. It feels so good. But, you could easily get drowned especially if you do not know the depth of the water you are about to swim, so, your first dive into the water could be fatal. Many people got hurt and never quite recovered.

But then, when you are single, it feels like you have been liberated by the Almighty into a new world of worry free. You can look around, admire beautiful people around you and have not a slight feeling of guilt. You don’t have to stay up late and speak on the phone for hours; you dont have to curse the telephone service providers when the network reception at your place is really bad; you don’t have to feel bad even when your parents want you to stay at home in the weekends; you don’t have to worry much about the kind of clothes you wear nor the brand of bodyspray you use- no one’s gonna notice it anyway.

But, the question is – is it fun to be single ? For some, it might be fun; but, for some, it might not be. Being single could mean no kisses, no sweet words and no special gifts, and above all no special sms’s. So, literally, there is nothing much to look forward to; and that includes no great weekends. All the days in the week become the same boring-no-excitement-day.

In the end…
So, let’s get back to our question which is ‘Being in a relationship: Better or Worse ?’. I’m no philosopher to make a conclusion for all human beings, and so, I don’t think I (nor anybody else) could give a clear answer to this question. So, be happy if you are in a relationship and be content for being single, if you are single.

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